I’m Alone… not Lonely…

So a friend of mine was asking me what was a great way to explain why she’s single to someone who showed interest.  And as we laughed about it, I blurted out, “just tell em because no one has wowed you yet!”. She thought it was clever but the more I thought about it, the more I actually agreed with the statement. Thank goodness I haven’t heard the infamous question of why I’m single lately, but it is often something people tend to be shocked by. Yes I get it, I’m incredibly witty, love to laugh, outgoing, gorgeous with a refreshing attitude…but that doesn’t mean I should be off the market by now. Just because I’m alone, doesn’t mean I’m lonely. All those qualities I listed still hold true whether I’m single or not. The beauty in this realization is that I love that I am able to stand on my two feet. I like that I don’t depend on testosterone to make me happy or to feel validated. Yes, I would love to be with someone as amazing as I am.. but the reality is…no one has wowed me yet. No one I’ve met yet has shown me they have what it takes to be by my side for the rest of this journey. No one has stepped up to the plate to take their chance at something incredible. But that’s not their fault. My thing is this, when there is something you want and need… you will go to great lengths to have and keep it. And until that the day comes, being alone is where I find solace and peace. I am loving the gift of freedom. The gift of hanging out and meeting different people. Planning trips out of the country. Spending time learning to cook. Personally, being alone keeps me focus on what’s important at this stage of my life. Getting my health in order and all around working on becoming a better me is one the best decisions I’ve made since having the balls to move to a foreign city like Dallas. Did I move to a different city to find a man? Initially I did. Because I was super insecure, and didn’t think I was special enough on my own, I sought out for a male representative to validate my arrival to true woman hood. Where did that get me? Absolutely no where. I had to get to know me all over again. Now I am in no way saying I haven’t met any amazing prospects, because I have. However, at this point in my life I am in a good place. And why fix something that’s not broken.  So what “I’m living single “.. doesn’t mean I can’t still have this glow on my face.  It doesn’t mean I can’t go out, travel and meet different people of all types. Lonliness only occurs if you let it, and I choose to live my life not worried about if my dance card is full or not. So what I have little to no “body counts”. Hey its less stress on me and I don’t have to say the infamous , ” hope he calls me after tonight ” feeling.  It’s freeing knowing I have this open road in front of me with endless opportunities. If at some point in meet someone who is brave enough to take a chance with me… then awesome!  But of that doesn’t happen, life will go on with or without me. So why not live life to the fullest. So, if you think your suffering from lonliness because your alone..think again. Change your mind set and realize you have air in your lungs, you are beautiful and that you have a chance to live fully in your truth while your single. Know that getting to know yourself is such an intricate part of your dating life. If you haven’t a clue as to who you are…. well get a clue and figure you out first. Don’t rush this process and don’t expect it to be a walk in the park. Remind your self that being alone is just your current reality that may be subject change.  Just continue to live with the understanding that being alone doesn’t have to mean your lonley. It frankly means you are alone. Nothing is wrong with you, nothing can stop you from living your life but you.  So get out your own way, and begin to take advantage of your free time. Time to take adventures, start a hobby, travel, spend time with family and friends…take the time to love yourself unconditionally especially just in case your knight and shining armor takes a detour.  Ultimately… the choice is yours.. so choose wisely… #onMyGrind #topShelf #steppingout #beingbold #beBrave #blessed 

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